Here are a few tips courtesy of Dick Berry from Youth Alternatives for spotting and handling anger with kids. Click here to visit the Youth Alternatives website.
1. HARD LIFE EXPERIENCES - "It's unfair!"
a. Kids are angry for good a good reason. If the same stuff happened to you, you
would be angry too.
b. Examples of difficult experiences: Bike stolen, embarrassed in class,
favoritism, losses, poverty, divorce, losses, parental abandonment
Address those issues, minimize change, give them choices when you can, help
them understand what they must accept
2. REWARD - "I get what I want when I yell and bug my mom!" IT WORKS.
a. Reward: If it works, they will keep doing it
b. Don't be bullied by their behavior
Think about your answer, say "Yes" as much as you can, when you say "No"
stick with it.
3. POOR COPING SKILLS - "I am so frustrated!" Things don't improve so they
are frustrated and angrier!
a. Avoid problems and they get bigger.
b. Blame others and don't do what they can do to make it better.
c. Procrastinating - put it off and don't have time to be successful.
d. Responding to quickly - don't have adequate information
e. Give up - don't get to the success part
Help them see how they cope, encourage new skills
4. PHYSICAL PROBLEMSa. Physical problems can make moods, problems worse.
b. Seizures, head injuries, tumors, juvenile diabetes, sleep problems, family
history of depression, thyroid problems, drug usage, allergies, monthly cycle
GET medical checkup to rule out physical problems
5. POOR ANGER MANAGEMENT TOOLS
- "I lose control of my anger." next