Mistakes Parenting Teens (survey conducted in Charleston, South Carolina by Elizabeth Harrell)
Teens in Charleston South Carolina were interviewed and asked to comment on the parenting mistakes they think parents make. Here is a summary of their responses:
1. Lack of Consistency
2. Not listening: Thinking teens have nothing valuable to say
3. Punishing in Anger
4. Irrelevant Punishment
5. Accepting any behavior because of age (character is character at any age; not using age as excuse to accept "wrong behavior")
6. Using guilt rather than reason
7. Being a friend – not a parent
8. Attacking person rather than the behavior
9. Parent becoming the enemy
10. Losing sense of humor
11. Stopping failure at all costs (let kids learn from experience- stop rescuing)
Teens want parents to be parents. One teen described their parents as "tough disciplinarians who also make him feel loved".
Peter, age 15: "I know how to work my parents when to ask for what I want; and when to stay out of their way. They love me, but they don't really know me. "
Teens have so many issues out of home. A stable home life makes all the difference, and this starts with parents maintaining their parent role.
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