Six tips for mothers. (Just in time for Mother's Day) These tips provided by Sally Meeker of Youth Alternatives.
1. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
A mother's physical, mental and spiritual health are crucial for her to be a good parent. Mother's often sacrifice their own welfare for the welfare of their children. Knowing how much our children need us, it's imperative we care for ourselves to be able to meet their needs.
2. SHOW RESPECT TO RECEIVE RESPECT.
You cannot and should not do everything for your children.
We learn how to become responsible and independent by doing things for ourselves. "Don't do things for your children they can do for themselves". It's often easier to clean up after the kids, tie their shoes for them, finish their homework, etc., but to raise healthy children, our job as mother's is to teach and then allow our children to complete tasks and make decisions on their own. In fact teens can become resentful and defiant when mother's hover and meddle too much.
3. EXPERIENCE TRUE LOVE
From that first bonding moment, Mother's long to be loved by their children.
Don't confuse love with leniency. Children may resent hearing the word "No" but kids who have boundaries and guidance feel secure and loved. That their mother's cared enough to say, "No", that's true love.
4. LISTEN, LISTEN, AND LISTEN SOME MORE
Kids like to talk to their friends but they are also more likely to talk to Mom if she's listening. Active listening is hard! It means acknowledging your child's words without giving feedback. It means emphasizing with their words and thoughts. It doesn't mean AGREEING with their words, it just means HEARING them. Look for a quiet moment or the few minutes you have driving your kids around to ask questions or just listen to their conversation with each other and with their friends.
5. TRUST YOUR MOTHERLY INTUITION
Mothers have good instincts when it comes to reading their children's behaviors. If you notice a change in their habits or mood, check it out. If your child is normally social and interactive but becomes withdrawn; or goes from being open to secretive, something may be going on. Give them opportunities to talk with you.
6. BE PROUD OF BEING A MOM
You're important, you're special and you deserve a Happy Mother's Day - congratulations Moms!