The following information is provided by Ronn Jeffrey of Youth Alternatives
Hints on teaching respect to our children:
1. Parents are our first teachers:
-Respect is a two-way deal: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Aretha Franklin sang for it and Rodney Dangerfield could not get it. We all want it, but do we all give it to others?
-Many of us have grown up in a time when children were to be seen and not heard. As a result many parents are determined to make sure their children have a voice and are heard. This is a good thing, but it's also important to teach respect while we're teaching openness.
-Many parents have confused fairness and a willingness to listen to their kids with equality. Parents are not equal partners with their children. Parents are in charge
2. Respect should be a birthright:
-Ronn Jeffrey feels that even though it's politically correct to say respect should not be automatic but earned, he disagrees.
-From the moment a child enters the world we should treat them as someone precious enough to deserve respect.
-Respect should only be unearned after someone proves they don't deserve it. This includes children. They have as much right to respect as adults
3. Don't expect other to teach your children respect. Building respect starts at home:
-Start Early! Don't wait until your children are teenager to talk about respect
-Set clear limits
-Model respectful behavior. Remember, the best way to teach children respect is by showing respect to them.
4.Don't be a nag.
-Repeating yourself tells your children that they can ignore your first request. Instead of saying it over and over, try asking your child if they understood what you said and hold them responsible for knowing better the next time.
5. Be a parent not a pal:
-Children need parents who care enough about them to set limits and enforce them. Be your child's friend, but be their parents first.