CHEYENNE, Wyo - In our weekly series with Cheyenne Youth Alternatives Dick Berry is in to give advice on how to be a better listener for your kids.
You always listen to your kids but are you hearing what they are saying? Here are five things you can practice to help you out, so your child feels heard.
Put the phone down and make eye contact. If you don’t focus on them, they will not share any meaningful information.
Put your two lips together and don’t talk. This might be a bit obvious, but you can't listen if you are talking. Out of respect, your child may choose to quit talking while you are talking. Close your mouth and open your ears.
Listen for the content. It is important to know what they are actually telling you. If they say they need to be picked up at 10:00, you don't want to show up at 11:00. Knowing the time means that you listened.
Listen for how often a topic comes up. The important stuff is discussed more than once. Because the topic comes up a lot, you could say, "Wow this topic is really important to you."
Listen for the emotions. What emotion is present?? Commenting on the emotion lets them know you really understood what they said. This is simply done by saying, "You seem..." and then add the emotion. "You seem sad about that." "You seem proud of your accomplishment." "You seem angry about that."
For more from Dick Berry check out the interview from the morning show.