CHEYENNE, Wyo - Blended families are increasingly more common in today’s world but still no less difficult to manage. Cheyenne Youth Alternatives sent us some advice on taking the first steps.
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-Talk about parenting styles first
Blending two families is not something that should be figured out as you go. Take the time to have a conversation about parenting styles before you’re married to make sure you’re both on the same page. What happens is couples don’t talk about this and end up having problems later on because they can’t match up their parenting strategies. So make sure to come up with a plan beforehand.
One of the most important rules to establish is treating each other with respect. Conflict is going to come up no matter what, and that’s okay. But no matter how heated things might get, respect is always #1 and this should apply to both the parents and children alike.
-Limit your expectations
We can’t expect everyone to love and trust one another off the bat. And if this is your expectation, then more than likely you will be disappointed. Understand that you and your spouse are going to have to invest in each other and the family before that kind of bond is built.
-Take it slow
Don’t rush things or force too many changes all at once. Too much disruption is going to make it harder for the kids and also for you. So take it slow and get to know each other before jumping in. This will make it easier for everyone in the long run.